Be polite
Everyone goes to the bathhouse to have fun. Nothing ruins the fun faster than rudeness. Auntie says: Be kind and polite to everyone you meet. Sometimes “politeness” means quietly moving along and not engaging with someone who’s being rude.
When you need to decline someone’s invitation to play, do it nicely. If you’re the one being turned down, apologize and move along.
A simple smile goes a long way — even with people you’re not into or going to have fun with.
If you’re passing someone in a tight hallway or stairs, let them pass through first unless you’re already almost all the way through, up, or down.
It’s especially important to be polite to the staff. They’re in a customer service job, and we all know how stressful and potentially unpleasant that can be. Be a tiny ray of sunshine in their day. And when it’s time to go, consider leaving them a tip — even if it’s just a dollar.
Handle rejection gracefully
I can’t stress this enough: Not everyone is into absolutely everyone else. Someone isn’t attracted to the person that everyone else thinks is absolutely gorgeous. We’re all there to have fun, but we also all have our own tastes and interests.
If you’ve been rebuffed, remember who said no, and don’t try again later unless they initiate it. (Yes, we all can change our minds.)
If you’re unsure how consent works in a bathhouse, see the “Consent” section of my “Bathhouse rules” page). It’s the most important thing to understand before you go.
Clean up after yourself
It’s always smart to offer maid service
- If you’ve made a bit of a mess, clean it up.
- If you’ve left some DNA evidence on your recent hook-up, use your towel to clean them up. Then go get a clean towel before you take your shower or rinse off.
- When you leave:
- Take your trash with you — unless a trash can is provided in your room
- Take your towel and bed linens to the front desk
Auntie says…
- Be kind and polite to everyone you encounter
- Smile
- Follow the Bathhouse rules
You’ll be glad you did!